Self-Compassion for Children and Caregivers

Live Online Six Week Course

Blair Carleton

About this Event

Life can be stressful, and as parents we want to be able to help our children effectively deal with adversity. This six-week Parent-Child Self-Compassion live online training can help parents/caregivers and their children ages 7-10 develop and practice the vital skills of mindfulness and self-compassion together. 

This parent-child class was developed by child self-compassion expert and trainer, Jamie Lynn Tatera. The program is an adaptation of the adult Mindful Self-Compassion training and is endorsed by the MSC program creators, Christopher Germer, Ph.D. and Kristin Neff, Ph.D. This parent-child adaptation also incorporates playful metaphors and content from the Path to Resilience training.

Numerous research studies show that self-compassion is strongly associated with emotional wellbeing, coping with life challenges, lower levels of anxiety and depression, and more satisfying personal relationships. Research on parent-child participants in this training shows increases in both parents’ and children’s well-being. 

In this course, you and your child will have fun and learn to:

  • Cope effectively with difficult emotions
  • Strategize on ways to self-soothe
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Feel less alone in struggles
  • Strengthen resilience and positivity
  • Increase your connection with one another
  • Encourage yourself with kindness
  • Become the best version of yourself

This program has recently been evaluated and research findings are forthcoming. Past program participants reported the following benefits:

  • A decrease in parenting stress.
  • An increase in adult self-compassion and mindful parenting.
  • Some adult participants reported decreased levels of depression in child participants.

Dates

Thursdays, October 20 – December 1, 2022
6:30 – 7:30 PM PT

Notes: There will be no class on November 24 for Thanksgiving. This is a 6-week class, but we are scheduling for one extra week in case of medical or COVID-related issues. Please hold an extra week (December 8) on your schedule in case a make-up class is needed. 

Continuing Education Units (CEUs)

Register for a Certificate of Completion and get CEUs. Our CEUs are available for licensed psychologistsmarriage and family therapistsmental health counselors, and social workers in Washington State. We cannot guarantee that these CEUs will be accepted in other states.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (PARENTS/CAREGIVERS)
Q: What actually happens in the class?
A: Class sessions will begin with a short period of mindful movement. Parent/caregiver-child dyads will then engage in a series of mindfulness and self-compassion mini-lessons and practices. Lessons incorporate fun metaphors, objects, and activities to teach relatable ideas and practices. Each class will also include a game.
 
Q: How is parent-child interaction structured during the class?
A: Each parent-child pair will be invited to share a computer screen while they participate in the live-online sessions together. Parents and kids will be invited periodically to pause to discuss their class experiences with one another (in the online environment, the parent and child will mute themselves as they discuss their experiences with each other). There will also be opportunities for the whole group and small group sharing.
 
Q: What is my role as the parent/caregiver in the program?
A: The best way to support your child in this program is to be a co-learner and come with an open mind. The material we discuss in the course is applicable to humans of any age. When possible, model the material for your child by talking out loud often about your experiences with self-compassion. Talk about the difficult time you had, how you felt, and what you did or said to yourself. This is one of the most powerful ways to facilitate your child’s learning.
 
Q: What if my child doesn’t want to come?
A: This is normal! Many children start the program with a variety of challenging feelings about the course including boredom and anxiety. If this happens for your child, you might…
  • Acknowledge that these feelings are understandable
  • Remind them they don’t ever have to share anything that they don’t want to
  • Offer your child encouragement through favorite activities or mini-celebrations after completing sessions. 
Q: What if my child gets distracted or has trouble sitting still/with online programs?
A: This is normal! Many children have this difficulty. If this happens to your child, you might…
  • Acknowledge that distraction and trouble learning online are understandable
  • Bring paper and pencil, and fidget objects to each session. Children can draw, write or fidget throughout. They are still benefiting!
  • Remember the course will have movement as part of each session.
  • Self-compassion is about noticing what you need and taking care of yourself. Need to stretch? Need a drink? Need a snack? Please do!
  • Remind yourself that it is OK if your child seems disengaged at times, and consider you are “planting seeds” that may bloom at unexpected moments in the future
 
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (KIDS)
Q: Will this be boring?
A: No, Blair can be quite entertaining, and we often play games during class. Kids are sometimes sad when this six-week class is done because they miss our weekly gatherings.
 
Q: Do I have to talk about my feelings in front of other people?
A: No. When Blair asks a question, parents/caregivers and kids mute themselves to discuss their responses with one another. Blair sometimes gives participants the choice to share with the whole group, but whole group sharing is optional.
 
Q: Why do I need to take this class?
A: Life is full of challenges. Self-compassion can help us to feel okay and connected to others when life is hard.
 
Q: What if I don’t want to take this class?
A: You’re not the only kid that would rather play than take a self-compassion class. Other kids who take this class say that it helps them to be happier in life. Also, ask your grown-up to read the grown-up FAQs for ideas about how to help you get excited about taking this class.
 
Q: Will this class help my parent/caregiver?
A: Yes. This class will help your mom/dad/grown-up as much as it will help you. But….shhhh…..you don’t have to tell your mom or dad that!

Scholarships Available

CCFW aims to promote well-being by making evidence-based mindfulness practices available and accessible to community members, particularly professionals working with children and families. We believe that mindfulness has positive implications for professionals as well as the children and families they interact with. Therefore, we wish to encourage mindfulness training by removing possible financial barriers for professionals working with these specific populations. If these fees are cost-prohibitive for you, we invite you to apply for a scholarship.

About the Presenter

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Blair Carleton

Blair Carleton is a lifelong teacher. She is a Mindfulness Coach, Recovery Coach trained through the State of Washington and the Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery, and an instructor of Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), as well as the MSC curriculum for teens, Making Friends with Yourself: A Mindful Self-Compassion Program for Teens and Young Adults. Trained by the founders of Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), Dr. Neff and Dr. Chris Germer, Blair received her MSC Teacher Certificate through University of California San Diego’s Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. Her focus is on helping adults, young adults and teens cope with difficult emotions and self-judgment by building strong emotional resources, skills, and capacities that increase self-love and acceptance in any situation. 

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